Normally, I’m one to avoid clichés. I like to think that my life is too complex to be described by a generic word or phrase. Everyone we encounter considers themselves to be a unique individual. I like to use quotes and phrases to guide me, not to define me.
“Let your past make you better, not bitter,” is a phrase that has always resonated with me.
Life is a profound and prolific adventure and I’ve used the events that could have torn me down to make me better. It’s not always easy, but at the end of the day I’m proud to say that I didn’t let the negative circumstances in my life turn me into a bad person.
In my opinion there are two types of reactions to all of life’s setbacks: disappointment or change. It’s up to each individual to decipher in which way they will react.
As an example, if an alcoholic were to get arrested for drinking and driving, this may illicit a negative response from him/her. Although it’s considered negative, the individual could respond in either a positive or negative manner, depending on how they viewed the situation.
The alcoholic could choose to view this situation as one that could potentially ruin their life. It’s understandable that this would be the most common response, as a criminal record and a license taken away would be detrimental for anyone. However, if this person chooses to learn from their mistakes they can change their life.
This could be the moment they turn their life around. If the individual had not been caught, a life of alcohol dependency would have been a definite probability, not to mention a quick ticket to an emotionally unstable life.
Let life’s circumstances help you. Focus on the silver lining in every situation, because things could always be worse. Without this realization I often found myself falling into depressive states. Once I could acknowledge the good in each situation life threw my way I was able to learn and grow.
No matter what you may be going through in your life, time will go by and things will change. With changing environments and settings we as human beings are able to adapt and learn as we experience new challenges. Don’t view change as “fixing what ain’t broke,” view it as a new and exciting challenge for you to overcome. Choose to look at everything through a positive filter.
Challenge yourself to be great; don’t settle for mediocrity or the status quo. Push the limits in every avenue you can. Use the past as a reference; you can grow and adapt from every event in your life.