But you have to help yourself before you can properly help others. I must admit, I was quite an unstable mother for my older children, as my mental health problems were going untreated. I had a vague and unstable self-image; I didn't really know who I was or who I wanted to be. Without a clear identity, there isn't much to be confident about, and so I had very low self-esteem as well. Growing up, we were forced to move around a lot by the foster system, which doesn't provide the most stable environment to develop and establish yourself, because of this even now I really like familiarity.
My home saw alcoholism and abuse, as my mother was also a residential school survivor. When it wasn't actively abusive, it was neglectful. My mother would stay away from home for long stretches of time, almost abandoning her children. Eventually she really left, and I had to take over as the caregiver for all my younger siblings.
What I see in myself and in my life, I can see in others. You need to relate to someone, and understand things quite personally, if you really want to help them improve. The hyper-vigilance that I experience as a PTSD symptom triggers ADHD symptoms. 19 years ago when I moved to Edmonton, ADHD began to really take root in my mind. ADHD medications helped with studying but group therapy is what truly helped treat the underlying anxieties. Sharing stories. Awareness. If you're experiencing mental health problems, push past whatever shame or judgment you may fear and start talking about it. Combining education with therapy and putting it all into action is freeing.