However, the more I’ve come to socialize with people, the more I’ve come to realize we’re all relatively the same. We’re all a little nervous to be judged, we’re all a little nervous to do something stupid, and we’re all a little nervous to shout out the wrong answer. Here’s the thing though: if it’s such a common fear, why do we even fear it?
From my perspective, I view these individuals standing up and speaking their minds as courageous. I think people also tend to over-think these situations. People make mistakes; this is a fact. If you do make a mistake, own it. Empower yourself and be able to laugh at your own mistakes. Most importantly, be yourself. Be who makes you, you. If it’s a little different that’s okay because that’s what makes not only this nation unique but the entire world.
“‘Weird’ itself, even in the dictionary, is just something that is different and unexplainable. A weirdo is someone who follows their heart. I’m definitely weird, ain’t nothing wrong with that.” – Kid Cudi
Follow your heart, be a weirdo. I like to embrace every aspect of my personality, whether it’s playing hockey or working out, reading and writing, gaming or painting. It could be me inside the classroom, attempting one of my corny jokes. I may never master any one of these areas in my life, but the fact that I embrace them gives me a sense of self, and a sense of respect for myself. The fact that I can zone out and have an overwhelming sense of being content while I’m doing them is reason enough to continue growing and trying new hobbies and opportunities.
Failure is part of the game; if you never fail then are you really challenging yourself? Anyone can take the easy path and do the things in life they know they won’t fail at, but then when it comes down to it these individuals lack that color on their soul, that extra something in their personality. I see failure as an opportunity to learn something new. As weird as it sounds, I enjoy failing at something new, because that way I can harness my skills and learn the proper way to do something.
A lot of our mental anxiety comes from the way we view things as well; we tend to dwell on the negative aspects of the risk/reward trade off. No matter what, focus on the silver lining because I can guarantee positives will arise out of even the direst situations.
Personally, I don’t want to be a prototypical human being. As I’ve written before a soul is a legacy that we leave behind when we pass, and I want to be able to look back on my life knowing that there is something to be remembered by. This is part of the reason I find myself constantly looking for something new, something to challenge me in ways I’ve never been challenged before.
No matter what your situation is, never shy away from an opportunity because of fear. Follow your heart, listen to your intuition, and be yourself. Everyone is weird if they’re comfortable enough. I find that’s when people are their best, when they’re completely comfortable and not afraid of judgment. Find that sense of courage inside of you. Be weird, and be the best person you can be without the firm grasp of fear getting in the way.
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