For one, we leave high school hardly prepared for the real world. While we learned about quadratic functions we never learned to do taxes, to get good insurance; to pick out a decent car or apartment or to apply for loans and credit cards. High school graduates go out into the world hopeful, only to realize with full force how difficult the reality of “adulting” really is. Even now, months after I graduated, I’m still learning what it truly means to be an adult. All the little things that my parents once did for me I now have to do on my own, and I never realized how many of those things there were, or how much they cost. (Honestly though, I hate spending so much money to get my hair trimmed.) If you live on your own, you need to have enough money to pay for rent, utilities, and other needed items. You need to remember to buy random but needed items like toilet paper, cleaning products, and salt. As university students we have to remember to book appointments (and go to them) all the while juggling school, work, and various other things. And as people, we need to add a social life to the mix. All of this begins to add up, hitting us in the face as soon as we step out into the real world.
With all of this in mind, how can we learn to “adult” properly? Well, we don’t. We’re going to go along, messing up on occasion, and try to pay our taxes or our tuition with some struggle, until we manage to successfully accomplish something. Then we will promptly celebrate our little win. It’s not about “adulting” properly; it’s about “adulting” successfully, even if that success comes with struggles. Because honestly, who decides how someone “adults” properly? If you manage to get a car that gets you where you need to go then you have successfully “adulted”. If you have booked that long needed hair appointed then you have successfully “adulted”. Don’t worry about not knowing how to do it, because if you make it up and it works, then what’s the problem with doing it in the weirdest way possible?
Having adult responsibilities is stressful, we all know it, but at least they come with a few perks, and as long as we can get through the day without failing too hard, I’d say we’re doing pretty good.
By Taris Breau