Through different circumstances we each construct our own moral compass. Morality is not something that is created through one event or any given piece of advice, but through a lifetime of events, situations, and guidance. For most, parents are our main source or morality; as we see how they interact with the world and how they react to certain situations; we model their behaviour. We should take what we have learned from them and improve on it. Exceed expectations instead of simply achieving them.
In a recent conversation I had with a friend of mine, Anthony Mayfield, author of “On the Brink: Resource Depletion, Debt Collapse and Supertechnology,” I asked him “If you could give one piece of advice to an audience, what would it be?” His answer astonished me; he simplified the idea, yet made it more complex than I had thought of it prior to this conversation. He replied, “If I could give one piece of advice, it would be to not ask for only a single piece of advice.”
There is no one-solution fits all type of advice; each situation holds its own unique set of circumstances. The parameters that surround my issue do not match those in my neighbour’s issue. The piece of advice that worked at one point in your life may not be applicable to a situation years down the road. One should never cease the search for more knowledge and wisdom. One should never shut their mind off to new, better ways of handling situations. A philosophy I like to live by is that you can learn something new from every person you come in contact with, even if it’s how not to do something.
Personally, I have grown exponentially since I came to university. Yet, the more I grow and the more I learn, the more I realize how much further I have to go, so the cliché life is a journey, not a destination has never seemed so accurate to me. I remember living an intimidated life, scared to take risks and scared of being hurt. I truly believed that there was no possibility of a brighter future for myself. As I continued to grow and continue to observe and study human behaviour I’ve come to realize just how similar we all are, despite our differences. As I continued to work on myself, I began to realize this is a life worth living more and more every day. I didn’t take every negative circumstance as a blow to my ego; instead I now treat negative circumstances as a way of life. Negatives will never stop occurring; it’s how we handle them that will change our outlook on life. As we learn and grow, we can became more capable of handling these situations.
We all need advice; it’s about building on the advice we have already been given in order to continue personal growth. Individuals should never consider themselves a finished product, because there will always be something to be learned or gained.
In the same light, we can’t blindly accept others words to be true. We must find out for ourselves the actuality of what is being said, and potentially build on it. This can be done by doing research, by trial-and-error, or critical thinking. The key is, if we do blindly accept what is being said, we can never truly understand what is meant. Life is a never-ending series of actions and reactions; the thing that makes life so complex is that there is no given formula for how we are supposed to live it. Always find a way to improve, always look for better solutions to your problems, and always stay in search for something greater.
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